In a world where love stories often dim, an enduring marriage is a precious gem. These 5 ways to keep the fire ignited in your marriage are ones that my parents had, and they were married for 49 years before my mom passed away. I have been married for 6.5 years, and want to share what I've learned from my parents and have applied to my marriage that works! I am even taking my own advice here (pauses writing to go give my husband a 15-second, purposeful hug). While we are not perfect, we have meticulously woven a fabric of understanding and harmonious connection—a magnetic pas de deux that defies the mundane.
Now, let us plunge into mastering the confluence of passion within marriage—here are inventive methods that are sure to reignite your bond in the most positive ways.
1. Make Your Man Feel Like A Man: the Power of Respect
Respect, a universal craving that every man has. It is the foundation upon which flourishes who they are and to simply put it, it's how God made men. This is first on the list 5 ways to keep the fire ignited in your marriage for a reason. The age-old adage that respect begets respect holds a spark of truth. Surprise your partner by expressing appreciation for his achievements, no matter how minor. A spontaneous phone call to acknowledge his prowess in handling XYZ tasks or simply saying the magical words, "I just called to say I love you," sends a jolt of electrifying affection through the veins of your relationship. After all, a well-respected man radiates in confidence. How sexy is that? Do this and see what he doesn't do in return for you.
Don't treat him like Carrie treated Aiden all those years back!
2. Figure Out Finances
It's said that money is the root of all evil. Aaron and I have never let finances poison our bond. The secret lies in prenuptial preparation—discussing financial matters before marriage to ensure seamless accord. Okay so, you're married now and finances are a struggle. Revisit the case! Sit down and have an honest conversation about how to spend, when to spend, set boundaries and stick to them. Even if you have to skip getting those new flats everyone is wearing or that perfect perfume you've been dying for, it's all just material things. You're marriage is more important. Navigate the financial responsibilities and allocate roles that align with your strengths. By keeping the fiscal ship steady and steering clear of arguments, you gift each other the freedom to focus on what truly matters: your relationship.
3. Don't Stop Dating Each Other
Keep dating each other: a phrase whispered throughout time. Whether weekly or bi-weekly, carve out an time where you can let the everyday worries recede, giving energy to intimate conversations that will bond the two of you. Remind each other of your dreams dreams, concoct scenarios of adventures you want to go on together, and allow laughter to take over. By crafting this time together, you weave a tapestry of shared joys. When you are out, even if it's just a simple drive alone, don't talk about the worries, the problems, the kids. I love the idea of taking turns on a date night where it's all about the other person. Fully immerse yourself into what the other wants, likes and is important to them. Don't make it about yourself. Save it for the next date night, when it can be all about you. There is strength in this.
4. Have Sex with Your Spouse!
In marriages, passion often takes a backseat. We advocate for its elevation to a starring role. Passion, both emotional and physical, is the medicine for two souls. Dare to disrupt routines, reignite anticipation, and rekindle the flames from when you two first got together. If scheduling is required, then do it. No one is judging. Passionate love will blossom even in the midst of life's chaos. This is how you capture your man's attention...and keep it!
5. Be Affectionate with One Another
The human touch is an instrument of transcendence, playing the melody of intimacy. Reach for each other's hands in silent understanding during a car ride. Greet each other with lingering kisses that speak a language only you two understand. Let your embrace whisper tales of unwavering love and devotion, and demonstrate affection in ways that affirm the deep-seated connection between you. Show your appreciation for your partner's uniqueness through playful gestures that resonate in the heart's deepest chambers.
In the end, the flames that dance within a marriage can be nurtured, cultivated, and intensified. The truth of our union is that love, is also an art—a tapestry woven with the threads of time, respect, passion, shared dreams, and heartfelt connection. So light up the everlasting fire, for in every choice, every touch, and every word lies the potential to reshape our futures. As I take my own advice, a new chapter of love begins.
Using a conscious effort, we aim to deepen the bonds that unite us and make each day a celebration of our love. An ignited light can illuminate even the darkest corners, casting light on a love story that's meant to be cherished, kindled, and treasured.
